Universal Loving Kindness just sounds like a far stretch and I still cant find my groove in this exercise. However, I do notice that during the day I am more open to others and their feelings. I've started being more conscience of others, listening more intently and processing their situation understand it better. Not a fan, but it is an effort.
During the assessment I came to the realization that I hold others to a high standard. That is why I have a hard time feeling sorry for someone when they complain. Even if it is serious! This isn't because I am cold (even though it reflects as so) but it is because I believe you are capable of anything you set your mind too and I hate to see you wasting your energy crying about it. For growth I may need to be more soft spoken and as much as I struggle with the Loving Kindness exercises I believe they are helping me open my heart to others feelings and situations. I am used to being the rock and adviser in my group of friends, I think it might be useful for me to make myself more vulnerable to them and learn how to be more accommodating and sympathetic.
Hi,
ReplyDeleteThrough reading your post, I can see a lot of similarities between the two of us. I also have some difficulty with the Loving-Kindness exercise. It's very hard for me to take in the pain and suffering of others in situations where they are the cause or neglected to prevent the hardship. I think this aspect of my personality relates to you holding others to a high standard. I also believe that the mind is the limit. As long as you can envision yourself doing something, you can; but many people do not believe this to be true or don't have enough self-esteem or faith in themselves. What has helped me work on giving loving-kindness to all is the hope that they will one day realize their potential and utilize it to promote health, happiness and wholeness within.
I hope this all makes sense and maybe you can relate!
Janelle